Some of us carry negative, limiting beliefs around, and have done so for quite a number of years.
Do you have times when you believe there is a perfectly good reason why you can’t or won’t do something? But, you recognise that your reason is potentially limiting how you live your life.
So where did they come from; these limitations that can dictate how we live? Did they magically appear to screw us up, was it someone else’s fault?
We can have some negative beliefs from our time being in the womb. I used to get cross with that kind of statement. Saying ‘Oh for God’s sake give us (mothers) a break. I don’t say that now.
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Think – the pregnant woman, being abused by an aggressive and drunken partner. The foetus feels the stress and fear.
Think Phobia. Click To read more on phobia and see a YouTube tapping routine on fear My favourite phobia analogy is the child playing ‘hide and seek.’ The child has hidden too well, has not been found for ages, or has possibly become stuck or trapped. A feeling of being trapped is a powerful belief to be held in the subconscious. It can manifest itself by
However, the subconscious is only trying to keep us safe. It reminds us of a past memory of a frightening situation, one which we don’t wish to repeat, do we?! No, no no! And that negative reminder is constantly being given more power, over the years. (see my photo, the pond has protectors keeping the fish safe, but is that a realistic belief ? No it’s just a nice little fun idea). A belief is just that – a belief, ours, no one else’s. But on occasion some beliefs do not work for our greater good.
School teachers take a lot of blame for our negative beliefs. It’s always good to have someone to blame. Shudder the thought that we alone are responsible for the beliefs we have taken on. (I am a primary teacher by profession) Sometimes our psyche has chosen to remember some comment which hurt or humiliated, and my goodness that can destroy potential. I tell 2 cracking stories relating to teachers who pissed me off, big time. One when I was 8 and the other 14. (notice I have been unable to stop myself from using a particular word.)
And of course our mothers and fathers play a huge part in our belief system. I like to believe that most mothers and fathers do the best job they can bringing up their children. But emotional scars can certainly be traced back to our early years.
Later this month I am running a workshop on
If you wish to shine with confidence and enjoy life to its fullest, please do not allow ‘old stuff’ to get in the way.
Give me a call if you want to find out how I may be able to help you.